RICH STYLE ADVICE: Blogger Edition

Let me tell you the problem I have with bloggers. Actually, I have a few but we’ll focus on this one today.

This generation of bloggers has the worst disposition and ego I have ever experienced. Back in 2014, I realize it had become this elite class of Instagram models, the only difference was that it wasn’t seen as socially unacceptable. They are a different kind of clout chaser, seeking validation from the same people they think are so beneath them they need to make money off of telling them so. My problem with this generation of bloggers is their lack of tact and humility.

I will admit, there was a time I struggled with humility. My excuse was that I’m a natural-born leader and that all the things I’m not made me a unicorn. It didn’t. That time I was the least interested in blogging and started a LONG journey to find something else fulfilling to do. I envied those girls who wore striped shirts with a red lip and a cute Tory Burch block heels shoe with a fedora. Too descriptive? It wasn’t that I wanted to dress like them I already did! I wanted that feeling, that I was doing what I was supposed to be doing in life. I wanted people to be interested in seeing me do just that. Now that I know what I’m supposed to do, that’s enough, and I think that was the point.

Eventually, I got a grip on life, my style, and my personality online. I’m quirky, bold, explorer. From style to people I can find the good in almost anything and that is a quality I developed because of my character and my desire to help people see the good in themselves, using apparel. To me, fashion had no rules or ceilings, and I hated blogging for not seeming that way. I thought it was a personality prison because I saw so many bloggers were in the same category of robo-chic. I started blogging in 2013 and almost lost myself forcing content that didn’t even sound like me.

Something my mom always said stuck with me. “You write how you talk.” Although she was talking about grammar errors in my middle school papers, I kept that ONE rule with me. Now that I think about it, it’s kept me true to myself all these years. It helped me realize that it wasn’t my season for blogging back then. Now, I can do it because I know myself so well, nothing could push me off track. Yes, we evolve, develop new interests; but it doesn’t eliminate the old us, it just adds more sweet layers of who we are.

Here’s my tip to those coming up in the blogging community now: find your niche by finding you. If you know who you are, you can never lose sight of what your purpose is in blogging. Have fun, and don’t conform to the trendy norm. BAR! Seriously, you don’t have to. It doesn’t make you cooler and in the long run, you may think back and say ‘eww’ like I did. Lastly, you can’t hurry love. By that I mean, you can’t make or rush people to love your content. Plant your seed and water it every day. Your seed is your words, spoken with real passion and genuine interest in sharing a part of yourself with other people who may be interested in the same topics. Don’t chase loyal readers. They’ll find you, I promise.

Xoxo, richelle k.

p.s. - this was lowkey a note to me. Cheers to growth, sis.